Love at first is exciting and blinding—to the past as well as to the future. But that’s because it’s not really love; it’s lust. Real love consists of negotiating crises together, nurturing the partnership, and feeling safe amid the ups and downs. Great questions to ask yourself: 1. The most difficult feelings for me to …
Tag Archive: divorced
Oct 03
My Transitioning Guy – Before Tornado Dating Really Began
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Realizations, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
I’ve talked about Divorcing Guy needing a transitioning girl or two and I think it is only fair I talk about my transition guy. I want to very clearly say he was a wonderful person and I will always love and appreciate him. We were very different in so many ways, but clicked in so …
Oct 01
Alone & Learning To Love Inside & Out
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Funk, Dating Realizations, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
It’s amazing how alone you can feel even when are with a group of people. It’s amazing how alone you can feel when you have family that loves you. It’s amazing how alone you can feel even though you have great friends. It’s amazing how along you can feel when you don’t love yourself. No …
Sep 27
Texting & Etiquette
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Realizations, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
I think I am a pretty laid back person, but I also know I appreciate manners. I try to be considerate of others and appreciate the same consideration. If out on a date I purposely silence my phone. If I have a time constraint I will keep my phone close so I can check the …
Sep 25
Getting Shot Down (Guest Post from TheUrbanDater.com)
Getting shot down is never any fun for anyone. It tends to suck because rejection isn’t fun for anyone, from the guy getting a basketball swatted mid-shot, to that guy at the bar mustering all his courage to approach the object of his desire. But, as one friend always said, “To become better at something, …
Sep 24
Tornado Dating Break Ups
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Break-ups, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
#1I stink at dating and am even worse with breaking up. I hate the thought of hurting someone’s feelings and try to convince myself I am doing everyone a favor by not wasting time or letting feelings become deep. I’ve realized there is no perfect time and the “It’s me, not you” is a legitimate …
Sep 21
Early Post-Divorce Experiences with Tornado Dating
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Realizations, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
I was flying to Virginia Beach from Dusseldorf, Germany. It was a long and crazy flight that ended up in me meeting two men on a hop between Dulles and Virginia Beach. I went out with both men; the first a reservist and the second a Mormon Army Diver. (You’ll see why the religious identification …
Sep 07
Tornado Dating & Hugging 101
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Realizations, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
My dating experiences have led me to notice an array of hugs. There’s the hug hello you give an acquaintance, hug you give a friend, an intimate hug, consolatory hug, and the pity hug. There are definitely times when I will hug a date hello; however, I have to admit I like it when it …
Aug 23
Tornado Dating & Imposters – The Saga Continues
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
My cynicism is building. I am beginning to think online dating is a role-playing game rather than a sincere effort to meet someone significant. I’ve already written about married men with online profiles and perhaps even a prison inmate. Here’s another example where the profile and the email exchange just don’t match. Granted the grammar …
Aug 21
If You Are Married What Are You Doing On A Dating Site? (Prime Example of Tornado Dating)
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Dating, Dating Advice & Tips, Dating Funk, Dating Realizations, Dating Stories, Online Dating, relationships
I have had and continue to have “interesting” dating experiences including married men with online dating profiles. I have had two experiences where I was emailing back and forth with a guy only to have their wife discover their profile and email me advising they were married. These men never said they were married or …
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